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5 Things You Don’t Owe Anybody When You’re Getting Married (According to the Curvy Godmothers™)



Let’s get one thing straight: getting married does not mean you suddenly owe the world access, opinions, or control over your day.


Somewhere between the engagement and the wedding, expectations start piling up. Whether it be from family, friends, coworkers, and people who haven’t checked in since 2017. The Curvy Godmothers are here with a gentle (but firm) reminder: boundaries are bridal accessories too.


Here are five things you absolutely do not owe anyone when you’re getting married.

1. A Dress That Makes Everyone Else Comfortable


You do not owe anyone a dress that they think looks best on you.


This is your wedding. Your body. Your moment.


If you want:

  • Full sleeves? Do it.

  • Glitter, texture, drama? Absolutely. Go for it.

  • A nontraditional color or silhouette? Say less.


The only opinion that truly matters is yours. If you feel confident, powerful, and like yourself, that’s the right dress…period.

2. A Bridesmaid Spot for Everyone You’ve Ever Known


Not everyone who has been part of your life needs to stand next to you on your wedding day.

Reconnected with someone out of obligation?Feel pressure to include people just because “it would be weird not to”?


It’s okay to choose a bridal party that reflects your current, real-life support system, not guilt, nostalgia, or old group chats.


Quality over quantity always.

3. An Out-of-Control Guest List


Wedding guest lists have a way of expanding… fast.


But here’s the truth: You do not owe invitations to:

  • Your parent’s coworkers

  • Distant relatives you haven’t seen in a decade

  • People you wouldn’t grab coffee with today


Your wedding is not a networking event or a family reunion. It’s a celebration of your relationship. The people who truly matter will understand and everyone else will survive just fine.

4. Perfectly Managed Seating Chart Feelings


Seating charts bring out emotions in grown adults like nothing else.


This person doesn’t talk to that person.That table feels awkward.Someone wanted to sit closer to the dance floor.


Here’s your permission slip: you don’t have to fix it all.


Guests can be polite for one evening. They’ll sit where they’re placed, enjoy the food, and celebrate you. Your job is not to manage interpersonal dynamics, it’s to get married and have a great time.

5. Exceptions to Your Child-Free Wedding


If you’ve decided on a child-free wedding, that decision deserves to be respected.


A lack of childcare doesn’t automatically change the rules.A black-tie event is exactly that. It is for adults.

Clear communication is kind, and holding your boundary is not selfish. The right guests will understand that your wedding vision matters.

Final Thoughts from the Curvy Godmothers


Weddings come with a lot of opinions, but none of them should outweigh your joy, comfort, or peace.


You are allowed to:

  • Set boundaries

  • Say no without over-explaining

  • Choose what feels right for you.


At the end of the day, this is your love story. Protect it, honor it, and don’t be afraid to make choices that feel true to who you are.



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